This is actually a pretty interesting article. Somehow the sentence about replying to an egg icon really struck me. I get that the article was about how its good to actually give a shit about things, but it did make me realize...
Well, wait, actually, it's a great example of how it's not the actual person -- like, as a human being -- that we get mad at, but their words, behaviors, etc. I just find it interesting that we think we are getting mad at people who we can't even imagine.
Though for all I know, you are like, a professional poker player living in Las Vegas, I guess. (Since we've never actually "met")
I hadn't thought of online anger this way, but you're right - it's like we create a version of some person based on (usually) pretty scanty data and then get FURIOUS at that, which is something that almost never happens in face-to-face encounters.
I am actually a professional sports bettor in Las Vegas.
Or, I guess we can imagine them, but based on nothing. At least I can imagine you based on years of LJing.
doesn't that count as undersharing? I chose that because I hate when people I meet in public say all kinds of stuff about my facebook or whatever when they post nothing. It's like welching on the social (media) contract.
ps. I love that NTL and I both chose that. Great LJ minds think alike.
This is definitely one of my pet peeves. Especially the vaguebooking that includes a disclaimer about how the person doesn't want inquiries or comments about the forthcoming vaguebooking.
BTW, you said that you got in some FB squabbles? I have had to restrain myself from a few lately, and noticed how I am way more likely to want to jump into a conversation when it's a less-good friend of mine. Like, I have to remind myself "DO NOT get into it with some Bernie/Hillary supporter [could be either] on your passing acquaintance you haven't seen in 5 years' post." I feel like that gave me insight into internet trolling... the less you know the people involved, the easier it is to argue, then escalate.
I did, and it was on the page of a less-good friend who I haven't seen in three or four years, just as you say. It was over one of their friend's stupid comment on the election (what else?) and even though I knew at every second of the exchange that I was being a chump, I went through with it.
I used to be so much better at not taking the bait. I don't know if it's the election that's melting my brain or what, but it's definitely something about myself I'm not thrilled about.
I believe you mean "about which I'm not thrilled."
I get annoyed by announcement-type posts on Facebook that read like they're in the class notes of an alumni magazine, especially if said posts are about romantic relationships. I'm sure it says more about me that I'm so irritated by them though.
I'm the same way, although sometimes if they're really over the top I kind of enjoy them. A friend of mine in SC divorced her husband recently when she found out he was cheating on her, and her posts about her new beau are magnificently proper Southern belle versions of "u mad?"
I don't know many people (possibly ANY people) who vaguebook, so I am lucky, because I would definitely dislike it. I hide the big majority of people I'm friended to, though, because I don't need Occasions to Be Mad on the Internet. I am even hiding some people I ordinarily enjoy a lot for their sensibility and snark for at least the length of this election cycle. Normally, though, I don't tend to get angry online, but I do feel twinges I can't do anything about around questions of grammar and infelicitous phrasing. Not that I am not guilty of those things myself.
I hide the big majority of people I'm friended to
This is really good advice, although lately in my case it's been people buzzing over to my Facebook page to start a scrap. I wish there were a to easily filter my posts, but it's also true that I never know what's going to set people off.